I went to see a movie with a friend this weekend called “The Other Woman.” I laughed so hard I cried and walked out thinking “I want a do-over. There is so much I could have done in my divorce that I didn’t do.” Okay not really, because I would never want to through this hell all over again from the beginning, but it was fun to imagine how I could have done things differently.
In the movie, a woman finds out her husband is cheating on her and decides to go meet the mistress. They then find out they are not the only ones, and plot to get back at him. I don’t want to spoil the movie, go see it. If you get a chance, see the movie for some light-hearted fun. I don’t actually recommend doing everything that happens in the movie, but it is funny.
You have to find something to laugh about to keep your sanity while divorcing a psychopath. The psychopath puts you through so much that it is easy to get depressed, angry, overwhelmed, and stressed out. I was with my husband a long time and it took me a long time to see what he really was. I didn’t want to believe someone could be so horrible, then I went through the “if only I could be better phase” and “if I can just show him how much I love him, he will change phase.” And where did that get me? It took a while to get to the realization that he is not a good person, he will never change, and he doesn’t love me. Now I’m in the “I want as far away from you as humanly possible phase.”
There were a lot of things in “The Other Woman” that I could identify with. His grandious lifestyle; how everyone thinks he is so charming and wonderful just because he is attractive, when pretty much everything that comes out of his mouth is a lie; his other life I didn’t know about, women I didn’t know about, business dealings, hiding money, thinking this is all a game and he is outsmarting everyone, especially me. I on the other hand, I WILL NOT be working with his mistress to get him back. In my case, his mistress is as crazy, deviant, and psycho as he is; so regardless of me doing anything, the psychopath I’m divorcing will get it in the end. (You picked a Crazy Woman! Way to Go!) I know the universe has a way of working itself out and I just have faith and patience… and get as far away from the psychopath as possible.
Check it out for a funny take on psychopath hell – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=juxTC7hYGTE